Goal-setting is often portrayed as a simple checklist, set a target, work hard, and achieve success. But what happens when you reach your goals and still feel unfulfilled? The truth is many people chase goals that don’t truly align with who they are. They pursue careers, relationships, and lifestyles that look good on paper but leave them feeling disconnected from their true purpose.
In Restoration in The Valley: Rediscovering Your Truth, Moya Martin teaches a powerful approach to goal-setting. One that isn’t based on societal expectations but on deep self-awareness and personal alignment. If you’re tired of setting goals that don’t bring you joy, this book will help you redefine success on your terms.
Why Alignment Is Necessary in Goal-Setting?
Setting goals without alignment is like running a race in the wrong direction. You might be making progress, but if the destination doesn’t resonate with your true self, you’ll never feel satisfied.
Aligned goals:
- Give you a sense of purpose and fulfillment.
- Keep you motivated, even when challenges arise.
- Help you create a life that reflects your values and passions.
- Allow you to grow into the best version of yourself.
Framework for Setting Meaningful Goals
In the book, Martin provides a step-by-step guide to creating goals that are not just ambitious but also deeply fulfilling. Here’s a sneak peek at her goal-setting process:
- Get Clear on Your Core Values
Before setting any goal, ask yourself: What truly matters to me? Your goals should reflect your values, not just what society or others expect from you.
Exercise: Write down the top five values that are most important to you (e.g., freedom, creativity, family, health, service). Then, evaluate whether your current goals align with these values.
- Define Your True Desires
Many people set goals based on external pressures, career expectations, financial success, or social status without considering what actually excites them. Instead of setting goals based on “shoulds,” focus on what truly inspires you.
Ask Yourself:
- What would I pursue if I had no fear of failure?
- What activities make me lose track of time?
- If money weren’t an issue, how would I spend my days?
- Create Aligned, Actionable Goals
Once you’ve identified your values and desires, break your goals into actionable steps. Martin suggests using the S.M.A.R.T. Goal Method:
- Specific – Be clear about what you want.
- Measurable – Set milestones to track progress.
- Achievable – Challenge yourself, but stay realistic.
- Relevant – Ensure it aligns with your values.
- Time-bound – Set deadlines to maintain focus.
Example: Instead of saying, “I want to be healthier,” a S.M.A.R.T. goal would be: “I will exercise for 30 minutes, 5 times a week for the next three months.”
- Eliminate Fear and Self-Doubt
Fear of failure often prevents people from pursuing their true desires. Martin emphasizes that failure isn’t the end. It’s a stepping stone to growth. When setting goals, acknowledge your fears, but don’t let them dictate your actions.
- Stay Flexible and Trust the Process
Life is unpredictable, and sometimes goals need to evolve. Martin encourages readers to remain adaptable, knowing that true success isn’t about rigidly sticking to a plan but about growing into the person you’re meant to be.
Takeaway
If you’re tired of setting goals that don’t fulfill you, Restoration in The Valley: Rediscovering Your Truth is the guide you need. This book will help you break free from external pressures, align your goals with your true desires, and step into a purpose-driven life. Grab your copy today and start creating the life you were meant to live!